Thursday, August 13, 2009

There's no place like home



Words can't express how happy I was to walk through my garage door late yesterday afternoon. When I tell you there were tears of joy in my eyes I am not kidding. Upon arriving home I took care of all domestic things such as dinner, unpacking, opening mail, and straightening up the house. Then when the sun started to set I went to the fridge grabbed a beer off the top shelf, went outside on the back patio sat down in the deck chair for a few minutes, closed my eyes and began to unload. I cried my eyes out. I have had so many emotions going on the past few days and because of other circumstances I needed to keep it all in check. It was all I could do to hold myself together over the past few weeks, running on adrenalin is a huge understatement.

I have absolutely nothing to focus on other than what is now at hand for me.

So now I need to be the rock. I need to be the foundation. I need to take care of things I have no clue how to take care of. I have to be a lot of things for a lot of people and I'm not sure I'm going to be able to handle it all. I just hope that I don't fail the people who are depending on me the most. I will try my best and hope that is enough.

Help me out, where do you gather your inner most strength from?

13 comments:

bronsont said...

Inner strength is just your accepting that you've got a job to do and gutting it out.

Faith is a lot of it, but people also use faith to wimp out and say "Why me God?" or "It's Gods will"

You do what you have to, because you love the ones who need you and will never leave them in the lurch. One step at a time, one foot in front of the other, and you'll make it.

We are here to offer any support you need, and our prayers are always with you.

Anonymous said...

I fine my strength in God. No matter what I'm going through I know that I can lay it in his lap and he will help me though it.

I hope and pray that things will get better for you. *hugs*

Love Tinyshrimp

germaine said...

well girl! you know where I find my strength. I need to have faith and trust in God because if I didn't I am sure my head would explode.

You remind me of how I was when my mom died... I was the one who had to tell my sister, tell my nana and the rest of my family... I was the one who had to make all the arrangements. It was such an overwhelming experience and I had to be the strong one when it was the last thing I wanted to do.

If I didn't have the bigger picture to grasp onto I wouldn't have survived or would be completely lost in my current circumstances.

Do know that I am praying for you and I am right here for you if and when you need it. ;) *hugs*

Love ~G

Nadia said...

I have to agree with Bronsont. There is nothing you can't tackle would you have not had the strength for it. I am not spiritual, therefore I won't be looking for my strength there, but I believe in me. Sometimes the road is hard, I asked myself the questions as why it is so, but when the outcome is finally here, I tap myself on the back and realize that I did it all, thank the one who helped, close the chapter and move on to next thing. It is hard, always, find all the support you can get if that helps you. Know that you have the strength within you, always. Good luck. I am available for support should you need it and I will be thinking about you.

citizen jane said...

Let us be YOUR strength. Let us be YOUR rock. Let us be YOUR foundation. That's what friends do.

And my strength comes from Christ. Period. Regardless of how much I try to control things myself -- and goodness knows I've done that from the minute Will was born. There's a reason He's called The Great Physician.

Praying without (OK, almost without) ceasing.

xoxoxo

yoonamaniac said...

I find myself quite not up to the task of giving you the answer. But I have to wholeheartedly agree with what bronsont said. And OMG, what citizenjaney said. Word for word.

I know we can't do much from so far away, but please KNOW that we are here for you praying, sending good thoughts and vibes, and you can unload whatever you need to unload all on us.

Much love and hugs and optional gropes to you.

saintseester said...

I am afraid I am no help here. My own inner strength is dissipating. I know part of the reason is that I am not getting enough rest. Maybe that's where strength comes from?

gina70r said...

I think you will find strength in faith and God. I think you will find strength in knowing that you have many friends that care for you, who will always keep you in their thoughts and prayers, and who will always be there for you.

Even from the little I know of you, I can see that you have a strong inner core of strength, courage and resilience. A core that may sometimes feel shaky and may feel sometimes feel depleted, but I assure you, it resides within you and remains very strong.

I agree with Bronsont, "one step at a time, one foot in front of the other". When there is so much to handle at one time, narrow your focus to only what needs to be done next.

Know that you are thought of with much love.

Miss Attitude said...

I think it's important to know that you don't have to go it alone. That's how I've found strength during a lot of difficult times. Having amazing friends who are there for you, even if they can't physically lift a finger to help, is the best kind of support. *HUGS*

Anonymous said...

Steroids?

AsKatKnits said...

I draw my strength from my faith. The blessings come from the faithful friends that surround me.

I am here, faithful and here for you.

No matter what comes, I am here.

Sending you all my love and unceasing prayer...

Devyl Gyrl said...

I do not think you could ever fail anyone - everyone who knows you knows that you put your everything into all things you tackle, so anything that does not go smoothly is just uncontrollable.

My best friend, my faith, and 'sounding boards' all provide inner strength that I do not always have on my own. I pray a lot, I attend Church services semi-regularly (more often when my heart is unsettled), I talk to my best friend, and I vent to my friends. I also listen to calming music, light a scented candle that makes me think of something happy ('night,' 'clean linen,' and certain 'ocean' or 'sea' candles all make me think happy thoughts), and sit outside and watch the stars.

You are an amazing person, with a seemingly never-ending supply of inner strength and support for everyone. I hope that you allow others to help you the way you have helped all of us.

xoxo

Cylithria said...

hi lady. i won't pretend to know all your going thru right now, it's been a rough week keeping up wise, for me. But I felt your question deep in my heart and wanted to offer up my way of keeping or gathering strength. I hope it comes out right.

I gather my inner strength from one thing - although my friends always bolster my inner strength, that strength itself comes from one spot. and it's gonna sound stupid but swear it's true.

It comes from knowing, deep, deep inside - that today, just in this precise moment - life hasn't killed me yet. Kid you not. At any moment of any day, no matter how weary, tired, just plain wiped out, overwhelmed and worn I am - i reach deep down inside and see the spot of myself that life has not killed yet. "I'm not dead yet". <---- that's my source for inner strength.

Life can be slamming me from every angle - be it physically, mentally, emotionally; all at once or bit by bit in pieces - and when it is 'too much' to bear I take great, strength building comfort from the fact that life hasn't killed me yet - thus I CAN GO ON. I Can accomplish, I can achieve, can succeed.

It's from that single spark of knowledge, that I am not dead yet, that totally allows me to begin rebuilding the faith, hope, and knowledge that I CAN and WILL make it through this time.

I'm not a Godly person, so I can't speak to faith - but your wise friends here can and have. I'd imagine faith, combined with that single spark of knowledge - that you are NOT dead yet, tendered with support from your friends..... would most definately make it clear - you can get though this too - with "bells on" as they say.

I believe in you Lady. I see your spark.